The Real Issue: Part 1

Within the MSM community there has been the all important golden rule of not being real. (Yuh too real, why yuh suh real, him real eeeh) have been comments that have permeated the psyche of this small but divisive family… quite the dysfunction. The term being real given in its purest context means a male acting overly feminine, being too effeminate, walking like someone’s beyonce, talking exceeding girly, wearing their clothes in a feminine way and all the mannerisms associated with typical female behaviour. Members of this community have more often than not accused each other of being real why?? This has to do a lot about projection because infact no matter how masculine you are all… umm  let me not go there well most msms have some “realness abt them, some real moments”. So you ask where I get the authority to say that, the authority rests in the fact that they are varying degrees of realness from the mild to the most extreme just as any other thing in social life such as abject and mild poverty. Within the community members exhibit different levels of realness it could be mild to extreme.

          Remnants of the straight world have left foot prints re this issue coupled with the gender issues relating to how masculine or feminine a person should be. This creates problems in the msm community as association is the line between life and death, getting through regularly day by day or being tormented every living second of every day.  Typical scenario: 2 msms walking on the road you have the mild real  type and the extreme real type. The mild real type goes about his business unnoticed regular looking straight behaving, then the extreme real type. Constant giggles, tyra banks walk, too much gestures and then the inevitable happens someone makes a comment they are identified branded in the psyche of all those who saw and heard the comments made to them….. Forever labeled as the batty boys>>> sad scenario but it happens every day whether the statement is made directly to the persons or said in secret they are labeled as being gay. The main problem with the concept of being real is that it is the main denominator/ identifier for msms. That is the marker, acting girly = being gay.

              Each msm whether out or not, in the closet or under the bed prefers to be straight in the eyes of society they are secretly of another moral political party and they go off with clandestine like behaviour. Being real becomes a problem as it threatens identity and is readily identified with being gay so that male is open to public scrutiny, assault and battery, social exlusion all things which the charter of human rights cater for but I guess they are crippled in Ja land we think we love. So what is the real issue??? The real issue also forces stereotypical sex roles such as the bottom and places the male into a receptacle of planned ideal behaviours according to the extent of his/her realness eg. If u r mild real then u r a top, If you are halfway real then you are a verse and if you are extremely real then you are a bottom. Ironically this order have many times been subverted, tossed all around and been made useless. Being real is a contruct and should  not act as a catalyst for msms to discriminate against each other in the name of self pursuits….. if you disagree then I just hope that you choose carefully your side of the real spectrum…. Because isn’t that the real issue???

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